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Better Sex, Better Life, Better Man

Better Sex, Better Life, Better Man: The Good Guy’s Guide to Unleashing Your Inner Bad Boy in the Bedroom has been described by one leading sex expert as “a book that every man, and particularly every young man, should read.” It offers men of all ages many practical, useful, science-backed tips for navigating the often-complex world of modern sexual relationships by unleashing their inner bad boy in the most respectful way you can imagine. Drawing on research and reports from a wide variety of expert sources, Steven Campbell explores not only the practical aspects of better sex but also the history of women’s sexuality and why so many women hold back from giving full rein to their true passion and sexuality. He also offers many tips and strategies to help men focus on enhancing their partner’s sexual pleasure and increasing the likelihood that she’ll orgasm—whether it’s once or multiple times.

Younger men whose early learnings about sex often come from unrealistic porn are particularly likely to benefit greatly from this book by learning how to develop and enjoy an authentic approach to sexuality—knowledge that will ultimately also benefit their partners. Designed to be read by both men and women, this book will be an indispensable resource for anyone who is interested in becoming a better person and a better lover—and just maybe building a better world in the process. Better Sex, Better Life, Better Man is a fun, modern guide to help men and their partners explore and fully enjoy each other and their life together. 

 Who this book is for:

  • Any man of any age who wants to learn more about female sexuality and how to help his partner have maximum sexual pleasure and orgasms. 
  • Young men who need to unlearn the sex misinformation popularized by porn.
  • Women who want to learn more about their sexuality and desire.
  • Marital and relationship counselors who need a resource to help their male clients improve their sex lives.

“Better Sex, Better Life, Better Man is a book that every man, and particularly every young man, should read to ensure they have the information they need to identify and challenge sex myths, and prioritize their partner’s pleasure.”

— Lori Brotto, PhD. Author of Better Sex Through Mindfulness – A Guide to Cultivating Desire and The Better Sex Through Mindfulness Workbook.

“In an age of sexual misinformation and misguided sex myths, Campbell has written an ambitious and generous book that succeeds in helping men access and harness an authentic sense of their own sexuality.”

— Ian Kerner, PhD. Sex Therapist and NY Times best-selling author of She Comes First.

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Laurie Mintz

“If you have been watching movies or porn to learn how to pleasure women sexually, stop doing so and instead read Steve Campbell’s book. Based on an impressive amount of science and written like a pep talk from a wise and funny older brother or uncle, Better Sex, Better Life, Better Man will help men, especially young men starting their sexual journey, learn to treat their female partners well, both inside and outside of the bedroom. I plan to read excerpts from the book to the young men in my college human sexuality class. Steve’s clarity and guidance will help my students unlearn harmful cultural messages about their own and women’s sexuality, as well as provide them with the knowledge, attitudes, and skills needed to create genuine connection and erotic pleasure with women.”—Laurie Mintz, PhD. Author of Becoming Cliterate.

Nan Wise

“Campbell shows ‘good’ men who they get to be in this well-documented and entertaining guide to developing their inner ‘bad boy.’ He gives clear guidance about how to increase erotic intelligence and sexual mastery along with the social skills necessary for good sex. I recommend this book to men (and their partners!) who want to feel more confident, connected, and happy both in and out of the bedroom.”—Nan Wise, PhD. Sex therapist, neuroscience researcher, and author of the Amazon bestseller Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding The Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier, and More Purpose-Filled Life.

Ian Kerner

“In an age of sexual misinformation and misguided sex myths, Campbell has written an ambitious and generous book that succeeds in helping men access and harness an authentic sense of their own sexuality.” —Ian Kerner, PhD. Sex therapist and NY Times best-selling author of She Comes First.

Lori Brotto

Better Sex, Better Life, Better Man is a book that every man, and particularly every young man, should read to ensure they have the information they need to identify and challenge sex myths, and prioritize their partner’s pleasure.  Porn’s effects, especially in the absence of comprehensive sex education, includes giving unrealistic ideas about sex to many people during their formative years. Important information about consent, safe sex, and sexual communication are often absent from porn. Better Sex, Better Life, Better Man can help fill this gap by providing science-backed sex tips, giving the reader a more accurate understanding of what sex is really all about to make it a more pleasurable activity not just for him, but importantly also for his partner.”

“Women’s orgasms are often called the Big O. There are pervasive myths about women’s orgasms, including that they should be elicited reliably from penis-in-vagina intercourse. We have seen a surge in knowledge dissemination to women to challenge these myths, yet men have not been targeted in these educational campaigns.  Steven Campbell’s book directly confronts these and other myths and in it he is speaking directly to men with the goal of teaching them the importance of listening to women to unlock their pleasure.  Better Sex, Better Life, Better Man is a great effort towards giving men the up-to-date know-how they need to make a big difference in their partner’s sex life. It’s about her pleasure.”

Lori Brotto, PhD. Author of Better Sex Through Mindfulness – A Guide to Cultivating Desire and The Better Sex Through Mindfulness Workbook.

Table of Contents

Preface

Introduction

Chapter 1: When Women Came First—and Often

Chapter 2: Say Hello to Your New Friend, Your Inner Bad Boy

Chapter 3: Dressing the Part—Looking Good to Look Bad

Chapter 4: Taking Charge—and Finding Balance

Chapter 5: The Art of Loving—Lifelong Seduction 101

Chapter 6: The Art of Loving—Kissing as Sexual Artistry

Chapter 7: The Art of Loving—The Right Touch

Chapter 8: The Art of the Female Orgasm—“Showers of Stars”

Chapter 9: The Art of the Female Orgasm—From “Showers of Stars” to Northern Lights

Chapter 10: The Art of Loving—Thrust Smarter, not Harder

Chapter 11: Let’s Talk Oral—How to Be a Cunning Linguist

Chapter 12: Sexy Dirty Talk—Talking Up a Storm

Chapter 13: Marauders—Take a Walk on the Wild Side

Chapter 14: Final Thoughts—Better Sex, Better Life, Better Man—Better World

Further Reading

About the Author

Sample Text

Chapter 2: Say Hello to Your New Friend, Your Inner Bad Boy

Boldness. Confidence. A take-charge attitude. Going in hard and fast for the first kiss. Openly desiring his partner. Bad boys have many attractive qualities. Why else would so many women be drawn to them? Clearly, because they’re human and they’re “bad” some may also have negative and dysfunctional qualities that present real challenges to any woman who wants to be in a healthy relationship. But we’re not interested in narcissistic, self-centered, or misogynist behaviors. We want to zero in on the bad boy’s positive traits and use them to help us—the good guys—in our relationships, and maybe also in life in general.

Debunking the Myths

Bad boys can get a bad rap, as they’re often painted with the brush of toxic masculinity. In fact, they have a number of positive qualities—such as a sense of boldness and fun, and an air of “safe danger” and unpredictability—that are highly attractive to many women (and men). Focus on developing at least some of those bad-boy attributes to give yourself a boost in love, life, and work.

What Makes a Bad Boy So Appealing?

So, what is it about these guys that makes them appealing to so many women?

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Chapter 13: Marauders—Take a Walk on the Wild Side

Note: This chapter is about the FANTASIES some women have—not reality. It’s critical that you understand this distinction before we go any further. While some women may have fantasies about aggressive sex, that doesn’t mean they’re okay with any form of unwelcomed or uninvited attention. Fantasies are no excuse for any form of assault, harassment, or inappropriate touching of any woman. No means no. You must get consent.

Note: This chapter also talks about some more intense physical sexual acts.

If you don’t want to try any of these, you can still use many of the other less intense techniques in this book to help boost your partner’s sexual pleasure.

Now we’re going to check out the wilder side of sex: marauders, aggressive sex, and the fantasies some women (and men) have about these and even more extreme behaviors. We’ve talked about “good” bad boys and the positive traits they exhibit. But what about the men who appear to cross the line into really bad-boy territory? Real marauders don’t care about the line—they just cross it. Good guys may need to pretend to cross this line so that their partner feels that her fantasies are almost real. Almost. Here we look at the marauder fantasy and how you can draw from it to create an extra level of excitement for your partner.

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Best-selling sex author gives Better Sex a thumb’s up

Ian Kerner, PhD, author of the best-selling She Comes First and a sex therapist based in New York, has reviewed Better Sex and given it a thumb’s up as a contribution to the field. Here’s his comment: “In an age of sexual misinformation and misguided sex myths,...

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About the Author

Steven Campbell is a writer, researcher, and communications consultant who researches, thinks, and writes about issues related to men, women, sex, sports, and culture.

In his spare time, he works out; enjoys great food, wine, and beer; always has a stack of books ready to read; and enjoys all sports, especially basketball, soccer, and golf.

He lives in Vancouver, Canada, where he was born and raised. He has two degrees from the University of British Columbia, but he is proudest to be the father of a daughter and a son. 

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